The Art of Active Listening
There is an art to knowing how to really listen. To be an active listener, you must really apply your mind and body into the listening. An active listener wants to listen and makes it clear to the talker that they are interested in the conversation. To be a great dog person, you must be a great listener.
There are so many opportunities to listen. Now, folks don't be afraid to sit within earshot of me at the shows for fear I will be eavesdropping on your conversation. I'm not talking about that kind of listening. I am talking about when you are with a group of dog people, you should be interested in everything being said. There is a great education in conversation.
Let's assume you have done all the really important things to prepare you to be a good dog person. You have learned your breed standard back and forth and can recite it. You have taken handling classes and know how to move your dog around the ring and you have learned how to best use your 5 minutes in the ring. You have studied your breed structure and movement and feel like you understand gaiting and angles and what makes a dog move. Now you are ready to listen to others to hear about their experiences in and out of the ring. You will learn grooming technique and feeding advice. You will learn tips on how to manage your bitch in heat or in false pregnancy.
Active listening will give you information that is hard to come by in books. You should ask questions when you hear terms or phrases you don't understand. You will hear stories that people have had and you can perhaps help save yourself from having the same experience or at least know what to do. If you have done all the work prior to starting your Active Listening, you should have enough basic information to determine if what you are hearing sounds reasonable or is it simple Poppycock!
Remember, even though the vast majority of people will go out of their way to help you and would never deliberately give you bad information, there are people that think they are authorities on dog fancy but unfortunately they have never taken the time to learn the hard stuff and they just spout nonsense. Active Listening will quickly give you enough information to know if you should invest anymore time on that person's conversation.
Don't be afraid to approach the professionals, breeders, other owner/handlers to ask advice. Showing them that you are a good listener and you can put their advice into practice (if it is suitable for your situation), will build a respect for you and you will have earned a supporter.
Here are hints on Active Listening:
1. Pay Attention
Give the speaker your undivided attention, and acknowledge the message. Recognize that non-verbal communication also "speaks" loudly.
2. Show That You're Listening
Use your own body language and gestures to convey your attention.
3. Provide Feedback
Our personal filters, assumptions, judgments, and beliefs can distort what we hear. As a listener, your role is to understand what is being said. This may require you to reflect what is being said and ask questions.
4. Defer Judgment
Interrupting is a waste of time. It frustrates the speaker and limits full understanding of the message.
5. Respond Appropriately
Active listening is a model for respect and understanding. You are gaining information and perspective. You add nothing by attacking the speaker or otherwise putting him or her down.
French Bulldogs Canada Part 1 of 2 By Carol Gravestock
It’s a typical Tuesday evening, and I’m doing one of the chores I have
come to dread most as a French Bulldog breeder, and head of a French Bulldog
breed club and rescue – checking my voice mails.
“We’re looking for a
Frenchie – a blue one or maybe one of the black ones. We thought it would be
fun to breed it. What kinds of prices do you have on yours? Call me back”.
“I want to get a French
Bulldog puppy, and I’ve been talking to a breeder I found through Kijiji. They
said they can meet me at the Wal-Mart parking lot to drop the puppy off, and I
was wondering if you knew anything about these people”.
“We have a French Bulldog, and she keeps biting our kid. Can someone from your shelter call us back and let us know where we can drop her off? I want her gone before the weekend”.
For French Bulldog aficionados, the last ten years have been a crash
course in what happens when an obscure breed becomes insanely popular. It’s a
course almost none of us have enjoyed very much.
When I decided I was ready for a dog, I knew exactly what I wanted – as
a third generation breeder, I knew I wanted the sturdiness and strength of my
Grandmother’s beloved mastiffs, without the size, and I knew I did not want the
coat or grooming requirements of my Mother’s English Cockers. A photograph in a
dog breed book of three leashed and huffing French Bulldogs caught my
attention, and after a little bit of research, I knew that this was the breed
for me. Where to find one, however, was a daunting challenge.
In the eighties, if you wanted a show potential French Bulldog, it
required deep pockets and a lot of stubborn determination. Litters were few and
far between (literally far – you had to be prepared to either get on a plane
yourself, or have your puppy shipped cargo), and the breeders who had them
tended to spend as much time swapping puppies back and forth between each other
as they did selling puppies to newcomers. I had my first puppy shipped in from
Texas, and my next two came from Missouri (shut up) and Arizona. All three of them
had horrific genetic defects, serious enough to require euthanasia in one
instance, and placement as pets in the other two.
My third show prospect I researched with the diligence of a madwoman,
calling breeders from around the world, none of whom knew quite what to make of
this obsessed Canadian. Eventually, I flew across the ocean to the UK, where I
then boarded a train into the middle of Northern England, and then took a taxi
to a row house in the middle of a working class suburb.
“I’m here for my puppy!”, I burbled to the bored looking woman who
answered the door. “Oh, right. Hang on, then”, she replied, before shutting the
door in my face. Five minutes later she returned, handing me an undersized
brindle mite who looked almost as puzzled as I surely did. She seemed to feel
this exchange of goods (my envelope of cash, her puppy) concluded our business,
and she prepared to shut the door in my face almost instantly.
“I… I think I need to come in and get some paperwork and whatnot”, I
protested meekly. The woman sighed, and reluctantly let me into her over
crowded sitting room, with a lovely view of a back garden full of what I
believed to be rabbit hutches (but which I later learned were their dog runs).
The puppy and I exchanged a look that clearly said, “Get me the hell out of
this joint”, so once I’d been handed my packet full of paperwork (the important
bits of which, I later learned, were all missing) she and I bolted for the
door.
The kindest thing anyone in dogs has ever done for me was the reaction
of Dr. Richard Meen when I proudly showed him my new import puppy (who I today
realize was pretty much a train wreck, no matter how much I loved her). After
being introduced to my gay tailed, fiddle fronted, tiny headed darling, and
asked for his opinion, Dr. Meen said words to the effect of, “I’m sure you’ll
have a lot of fun with her”.
Today, anyone seeking a puppy will have a much easier time than I did.
French Bulldog popularity has boomed in the last ten years, and we’ve gone from
an obscure breed that almost no one had ever heard of, to one of the fastest
climbing “AKC Top Ten Most Popular” dog breeds of the last fifty years.
Martha Stewart might have started the celebrity rush to French Bulldog
ownership, but Ashley Olsen, Reese Witherspoon, Leonardo DiCaprio and a host of
hipsters and young urban professionals have all helped to increase the
desirability of French Bulldogs. Demand combined with high puppy prices has
created a virtual goldmine for both backyard breeders and big business puppy
mills.
Today, almost any online sales site will be happy to provide you with a
‘show quality’ French Bulldog in any color of the rainbow (even the colors
we’re not allowed to show). In Canada, CKC registrations of French Bulldogs
have increased tenfold – from less than a dozen puppies registered per year in
all of Canada, to dozens of litters every week. This doesn’t even take into
account the booming trade in import brokered puppies – puppies brought over in
bulk from Eastern Europe, and resold at a hefty mark up.
Part 2 Next Week
Carol Gravestock, Bullmarket French
Bulldogs, lives in the Village of Durham, near the Bruce Peninsula.
Carol Gravestock purchased her first pet
quality French Bulldog in 1989 – a little cream bitch she affectionately refers
to as the ‘gateway drug of dogs’.
Since then, Bullmarket French Bulldogs have
finished championships in almost twenty countries around the world, with
numerous American, Canadian and International Champions. Carol has also bred
one of only two Brindle Pied French Bulldogs to win Best of Breed at
Westminster, and is breeder of the current youngest Best in Show winning French
Bulldog in Canadian breed history. While proud of her show wins, Carol is
equally proud that one of her French Bulldogs was invited to the Eukanuba
Agility Invitational at the age of fourteen.
The co founder of Canada’s first ever
French Bulldog breed club, Carol is now President of the Eastern Canada French
Bulldog Club, while also serving on the board of two North American French
Bulldog rescue groups. Carol is also the proud creator of the internet’s first
French Bulldog specific web pages and mailing list.
She has written extensively about French
Bulldog collectibles, breed history and historical owners of French Bulldogs,
and on the intricacies of French Bulldog coat color genetics.
Websites: www.bullmarketfrenchbulldogs.com
www.frenchbulldogscanada.com
My Home Club is having its annual show. I hope to see many of you there!
I like to see people do nice things for others. If someone does something nice for you at a show or you see or hear about something nice being done, please send me an email at djenkins@shaw.ca. Be sure to put in the subject: Nice
We will mention that person by name in the blog.
I interviewed Maude Bicknell this week. I want to spotlight her here, but I want it to be a real celebration of her service to Dog Fancy. If you have any photos of Maude or any stories you would like to share, please send them to my email: djenkins@shaw.ca and be sure to put Maude in the subject line. Maude has dedicated herself to the betterment of our shows. I am so honored and thrilled to Spotlight such a wonderful lady. My deadline is next Monday, June 3rd.
Thanks for helping me make this a real tribute to Maude.
Remember to watch for "Nice Deeds". They are happening all around us. Let's talk about the people helping others. Send your "Nice Deeds" to me at djenkins@shaw.ca
Be sure to go to Canuck Dogs, http://www.canuckdogs.com, to see all the upcoming events and to check stats. You should bookmark it. That's where you will find my blog. XXXOOO |
Tuesday, May 28, 2013
Welcome To My View
Wednesday, May 22, 2013
Welcome To My View
Purina Farms
I just got home from Purina Farms in St. Louis, Missouri. What a fantastic facility for a dog show. Starting at the road, the farm is set back off the main highway and off a narrow country road. Once you arrive at the front gate, you travel down beautiful winding driveway with green lawns on each side. At the top of the driveway is the main event building. There are topiaries of various dog breeds greeting you on each side of the front walkways. Everything is neat and well groomed.
Inside the Event Building there is a huge grooming area with plenty of electrical outlets. No need to buddy up on outlets or scourge around to find one. There is so much room, you don't have to worry about rubbing behinds with your neighbor when you are at the grooming table. The entire building is well lighted. You would be hard pressed to find a shadow or dark corner. There are six huge bath tubs in the public wash area. Change rooms are provided if you don't want to stay in your show clothes.
The show floor is rubberized which eliminates the need for matting in the rings. The rings were huge, from 40 feet x 40 feet to 40 feet x 60 feet. Purina provides ample seating ringside, so there isn't a need to haul your personal chair back and forth. The Agility and Obedience rings were covered with Astroturf of the highest quality. Purina thought of everything to make the dogs comfortable and safe.
Hungry? Go to the Checkerboard Cafe. Food was good and there was plenty of variety. For advice on Purina Pet Food, go to the ProPlan Help Center. Samples of food were available along with canvas bags and calendars. Purina has changed its packaging graphics and they were taking the time to make sure attendees understand how to find the food they want.
The camping facility was great. They provide full hookups and the RV's are located just mere steps away from the Event Center. If you plan to take your RV to Purina Farms, be sure to take a couple of large outdoor mats. The RV's are parked on pea gravel and it makes for a hard place for your dogs to use an ex-pen and to step out on when leaving the RV. We had two mats, one under the ex-pen and one under our awning and it was perfect.
If you are not camping at the Farm, the closest hotel is the Travel Lodge less than 10 minutes away. It isn't plush, but its clean and convenient and the people staying there said the staff was very friendly and helpful. This hotel was considerably cheaper than the suggested Host Hotel. The next nearest hotel is about 15 minutes away at the next exit off the interstate highway.
There are plenty of restaurants and shopping nearby along with other fun activities. Six Flags is just one exit away and a must see is the American Kennel Club Museum of the Dog in nearby St. Louis. Don't forget to stop and take a close up visit at the Gateway Arch. It is the tallest national monument in the United States standing 630 feet.
Purina Farms was so wonderful, I wish we would have our National Show there every year. If you have the opportunity to go, don't miss it!
Here are websites that you can tour for more information:
Dachshund Club of America Show
We attended the DCA show at Purina Farms last week. I love this show. It is like going to a huge family reunion. I get to see people that I only get to see once a year at this show. This year I got to see friends from Poland and to meet a breeder I've wanted to meet for a long time from Brazil.
We call our little group of friends, "Wired and Wonderful" because we all have wirehaired dachshunds. Our group travels from Wisconsin, Texas, Ohio, North Carolina, Oregon, New York, Poland and Canada.
We can't wait to see each others' dogs, hear about new litters and future breeding plans. We discuss grooming and what products we like. Even though we all want to win in the ring, we are just as excited for our friends when they win. This year, Lyle and I had our new Polish Red Dog, Chase, ExSentia Catch Me If You Can, to introduce and we were very excited for everyone to meet Dillon Conod, our wonderful junior and his dog Cooper.
Lyle and I hosted a cookout for our friends from all across North America. We had a fabulous time catching up. It was
wonderful to have Marcello Tulipano and Bob Boxma; Guy Jeavons and Vicki Thomas at the cookout. We had a nice Canadian turnout at DCA this year. Congratulations to all for such nice dachshunds and good job in the ring.
We didn't do too bad in the rings. Cara went Select Bitch at the St. Louis Host on Tuesday. Dillon with Cooper, ExSentia Deuce Coupe, went 1st, two 2nds and a 3rd in large and competitive 12 - 18 month classes. Chase went 1st, 2nd and a 3rd in the 12 - 18 month classes.
We appreciate Aga Malecka for showing Chase at DCA. Aga and her mother Ina are his breeders from Poland.
Dillon has a fan following all over the world. He holds his own in the big ring with all the experienced pro handlers and long-time owner/breeders. We couldn't be more proud of him and Cooper. Thanks so much to Shirley and Jim Conod for allowing Dillon to travel with us and to pursue his love of dogs and the show ring.
Another Nationals is done and over. We are back home with memories and photos as reminders of all the fun. Now we plan our trip to California for DCA next year. Hotel reservations are already made. Now to find a jar to start saving our money for trip!
Debby Krieg, Daybreak Wires with Aga and Dillon at DCA |
We call our little group of friends, "Wired and Wonderful" because we all have wirehaired dachshunds. Our group travels from Wisconsin, Texas, Ohio, North Carolina, Oregon, New York, Poland and Canada.
Wired and Wonderful Group |
Lyle and I hosted a cookout for our friends from all across North America. We had a fabulous time catching up. It was
Pizza Party at DCA |
We didn't do too bad in the rings. Cara went Select Bitch at the St. Louis Host on Tuesday. Dillon with Cooper, ExSentia Deuce Coupe, went 1st, two 2nds and a 3rd in large and competitive 12 - 18 month classes. Chase went 1st, 2nd and a 3rd in the 12 - 18 month classes.
Dillon stacking Cooper |
Aga Malecka with Chase |
Another Nationals is done and over. We are back home with memories and photos as reminders of all the fun. Now we plan our trip to California for DCA next year. Hotel reservations are already made. Now to find a jar to start saving our money for trip!
I like to see people do nice things for others. If someone does something nice for you at a show or you see or hear about something nice being done, please send me an email at djenkins@shaw.ca. Be sure to put in the subject: Nice
We will mention that person by name in the blog.
This week we Spotlight Laurie Savoie.
Laurie along with her husband run Myrtlehill Pembroke Corgi Show Kennel. She also owns Savoie Faire Photography and she is a regular writer for Canadian Dog Fancier Magazine.
Laurie called me about the last blog I wrote and the article about Tricks in the Ring. She wanted to discuss the advice I had given about going to the end of the line if you experienced problems with another handler. I have the utmost respect for Laurie's experience and knowledge, and I really appreciated her taking the time and interest to contact me.
Laurie had concern that my advice would not be universally accepted by all judges in all areas of Canada. Since I was drawing on my own experience in Ontario, I agreed that my advice was probably not good enough in this instance.
So, thanks to Laurie, I would like to correct that advice and tell everyone that first and foremost you should safeguard your dog by keeping your body between your dog and the dog behind you. Always speak to the Ring Steward for permission to move to the end of the of the line. Remember, the judge is the sheriff of the ring, so you must follow the judge's instructions at all times.
Thank you so much, Laurie. I am honoured that you read my blog and I am very thankful for your guidance and advice. I am humbled!
For more helpful information from Laurie, check for her articles in Canadian Dog Fancier Magazine. You can look at past issues on their website, http://www.canadiandogfancier.com
Remember to watch for "Nice Deeds". They are happening all around us. Let's talk about the people helping others. Send your "Nice Deeds" to me at djenkins@shaw.ca
Be sure to go to Canuck Dogs, http://www.canuckdogs.com, to see all the upcoming events and to check stats. You should bookmark it. That's where you will find my blog.
XXXOOO
Be sure to go to Canuck Dogs, http://www.canuckdogs.com, to see all the upcoming events and to check stats. You should bookmark it. That's where you will find my blog.
XXXOOO
Monday, May 6, 2013
Welcome To My View
I like to see people do nice things for others. If someone does something nice for you at a show or you see or hear about something nice being done, please send me an email at djenkins@shaw.ca. Be sure to put in the subject: Nice
We will mention that person by name in the blog.
Last week Rob brought to my attention that I failed to put anything in the subject line of my weekly blog email blast. I really appreciated him catching that. I like to be sure to fill the subject line in each week, so those that don't want to read the email have the choice of hitting the delete button. Reading the subject line is usually enough to let folks know the blog is ready.
Rob is a busy fellow. He is breeder/owner of Congquerer Golden Retreivers and has an active breeding program and show schedule. You can find more about Rob by going to his website: http://www.conquerergoldens.com
Thanks so much again, Rob!! Your my unofficial official proof reader, now!
Remember to watch for "Nice Deeds". They are happening all around us. Let's talk about the people helping others. Send your "Nice Deeds" to me atdjenkins@shaw.ca
Be sure to go to Canuck Dogs, http://www.canuckdogs.com, to see all the upcoming events and to check stats. You should bookmark it. That's where you will find my blog.
XXXOOO
Be sure to go to Canuck Dogs, http://www.canuckdogs.com, to see all the upcoming events and to check stats. You should bookmark it. That's where you will find my blog.
XXXOOO
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